Coaching & Education for Non-Monogamy, Polyamory and/or Kink.
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Have you ever...
Realized that you don’t know how to start communicating intimate needs or how to start exploring kink, even with a willing partner?
Experienced judgment or criticism from friends for wanting to explore alternative relationship ideas, or found yourself without peers or mentors to discuss different relationship dynamics?
Felt attracted to or curious about exploring multiple connections but don’t know where to start?
Felt guilty for questioning, or have questioned, whether monogamy is the only “right” way to have a meaningful or successful relationship?
Struggled with insecurity or jealousy in a relationship while trying to navigate an open dynamic?
Felt that artificial barriers are preventing you from fully exploring your dating potential?
About Dr. Kate
I’m thrilled that you’ve landed here. I’m here to assist you on your journey towards becoming your most authentic, aware, and fulfilled self. Non-monogamy and kink are subjects that are not covered in school or even in many therapists’ offices, and my aim is to be a guiding hand for you as you explore these heretofore-uncharted territories.
Even as a child learning about the concept of traditional marriage, I didn’t understand how I could be expected to be intimate with only one person for my entire adult life. This belief is not widespread, and I struggled with it for many years. Thankfully, I discovered that being non-monogamous and ethical are not mutually exclusive, and for more than a decade I have been living the life I always imagined for myself, while staying true to my belief that relationships should be built on trust and transparency.
In my years being authentic to myself and guiding numerous people through these paths to authenticity, I have also encountered an extremely wide variety of kinks and empowered many to safely, ethically embrace their needs.
What Coaching Offers
Start with a free 15-minute discovery call with Kate. We’ll learn more about your aspirations and the limiting beliefs, whether internal or external, that could be holding you back. This can apply to singles and couples, and can be done in a group. We’ll use this call to see if we are a good fit to move forward on this journey together.
For Couples, Throuples, and Groups
The decision to begin our journey together or separately will be based on our initial discovery call. It’s crucial for all of you to have individual sessions with Kate to delve into your own desires and boundaries and address any related traumas. You are advised to remain adaptable, as each person has distinct needs and lived experiences.
Depending on your current situation, Kate can offer insights into potential options, dynamics, and important considerations to keep in mind. We’ll dig deeper into the unique bond you share and how to best nurture it. If and when you are ready, we can discuss the steps to potentially expand or open your relationship, all while Kate provides customized, actionable guidance tailored to your specific situation.
PLEASE NOTE: This service is not meant to coerce anyone into accepting a lifestyle in which they have no interest in participating. Kate will be vetting to make sure this is a mutually agreed-upon decision for a relationship model that all participants want to explore.
For Individuals of Any Inclination
Together, we’ll determine your starting point, and from there we can discuss various relationship dynamics and options. We’ll explore what resonates with you on a deeper level. I can provide ideas on how to approach kink and/or non-monogamy within dating. Furthermore, I’ll guide you as you explore potential partners and communities that could potentially complement you. As many individuals discover during their journeys, different connections bring out different aspects of ourselves, some of which can be surprising and unexpected. We will frequently review and assimilate your discoveries into your new lifestyle, together.
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When Working With Me, You Can Expect...
Discussions about terminology, nuances, and the many options people can explore to find out what fits their wants and needs.
Tools for deepening current partner bonds and play, and/or discovering new partners and how to navigate what play you might have in common.
A co-created roadmap to the you that you want to become (adjustable as we move forward).
Explorations of boundaries – how, when, and why to set them, and how to methodically break self-limiting boundaries with your partners.
A sense of confidence in assessing whether you and your partners are a good fit for each other.
Confidence to navigate relationships and their dynamics with a more conscious and informed perspective.
Resources
A few places to start reading and exploring.
What Our Happy Customers Say
Despite having lived in many of the world’s most socially progressive cities I have never met someone as knowledgeable or experienced in the many forms of non monogamy as Coach Kate. I have learned to define what felt normal to me: the desire of having one partner, while continuing sexual exploration with and without my partner, as a specific form of non monogamy. This has helped me build a healthy and happy balance between my needs and the needs of my partner.
A L
Discussing intimate matters can often be uncomfortable, whether or not you have a coach, but with Kate, that awkwardness simply disappears. Her friendly demeanor and genuine, straightforward communication style alleviate any potential discomfort my partner and I might have felt, especially when delving into “touchier” topics. Kate approaches conversations without judgment, offering personalized tips and insights that align with our current stage in our journey of exploration. She makes everything feel approachable and exciting, creating a safe and welcoming space for open discussions.
R & S
Navigating the dynamics of ethical non-monogamy alone can be tough. Kate’s coaching techniques helped me to identify exactly what I wanted and needed in my interpersonal relationships, and gave me the strategies needed to move forward on my journey to relationship happiness! Thank you so much Kate!
Dominic D
Kate is a life-long student of sex, an intimacy nerd, and the type of positive representation that makes people from all walks of life feel safe to express themselves and find the confidence to explore within and with others. I’ve been fortunate enough to know Kate since early 2019, and through the years have gained a deep appreciation for her resolute commitment to creating and hosting special spaces for alternative sex education. She is able to guide with joy, gentleness, and encouragement while speaking in the grounded language of science. It is this balance of practicality and sheer tenacity that makes experiences with her so constructive. Whether it be an intimate coaching session learning the potential of my own body, or hours in a stained glass lit sanctuary exploring light and bondage with women who no longer want to wait for their “man to learn to tie”, Kate has invested in my growth as a career woman, parent, and ethical nonmonogamist.
Manon B
I deeply admire Kate’s ability to empower and inspire women. Her own confidence, immense knowledge, compassion and composure help to create a space for you to be open and vulnerable while also encouraging you to embrace your own confidence and acceptance of self. I’ve had the opportunity to host multiple events with Kate to help women explore and learn about their own sexuality in a safe and supportive space. The goal of these events was to empower through knowledge and self awareness. Her expertise is not just in the logistics of exploring kinks but their emotional and intellectual trappings as well. I can always rely on Kate to not just help me get out of my own way, but also create moments of learning and supported evolution.
Lexie L
